There are much better ways to communicate with your child. Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts Kid, 11 years old September 6, 2019 Please please parents don’t monitor your kids phone unless absolutely sure that something sketchy is going on. Parent written by Kim M. June 2, 2018 Otherwise you should sit down and talk to your teen. Flag as inappropriate  I always do my work on time, and I haven't done anything really WRONG in my life. What's the right age for parents to get their kids a cell phone?

So, we as humans are motivated to protect ourselves from these threats by maintaining our self-integrity. I don’t want to but my parents won’t give me any freedom or privacy. You are kidding right?

I stopped being a Christian and I discovered I was gay which was mainly what I was worried about my parents discovering. Teen, 16 years old written by Jordane04 July 16, 2020

I did fine. They saw me scrolling through my feed and now they’re pressed.

I know whats wrong and whats ok.

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Flag as inappropriate  Flag as inappropriate  Untrusting relationships don't make good kids- It makes good liars. 2) It will break any form of trust that you have with your kid. I have this art app on my iPad, I like to draw, that’s fine. Flag as inappropriate  No it's not right reading your kids text yes I know your worried but sometimes you haft to respect there stuff and privacy trust me I don't think you would want your kids reading your text would you? We set rules & guidelines for use back then. Also around this time I was going to my uncles house for a small little vacation who didn't live in Nevada. i usually get my phone taken away for literally everything and nothing because my mom is just that over protective and strict. Flag as inappropriate  If your child is showing unusual signs for their age then you possibly have the right to check their phones. I only found out because of another vigilant parent. Flag as inappropriate 

Im not gonna sext, Im not gonna send rude messages or anything like that.

It has led to me and my parents just not trusting eachother, and because of the lack of privacy and freedom I have, I simply cannot wait till I can move out (for other reasons as well). I'm a child and has gone through this. Flag as inappropriate 

Teen, 13 years old written by qwertymcqwerts December 2, 2016 I did have a Twitter account that I had made a couple years earlier, so I downloaded the Twitter app and texted my friends through that. No, I believe it is wrong to check your child's messages. Flag as inappropriate  Flag as inappropriate  I am not allowed to have Instagram, even though all my friends have it and I feel left out. thank you for saying that, it's our personal messages and if we want you to read them then we'll tell you what to read

Im texting my bff about who i secretly fancy. it's really, really bad. What do I do? It's really all about the circumstances. Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts your children are NOT your property, they are human beings who learn, grow, reason, mature etc etc. I don't want to trust her either. It can make us feel very uncomfortable.

Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts Now my parents dont get along with me and don't trust me. Teen, 13 years old written by Heyguyswhatsup August 9, 2020 see our answer I was mad. Flag as inappropriate  Sometimes the best thing you can do is give us space, and sometimes the best thing you can do is talk to us about some things. later that day they told me they found a photo of a guy and that i should've been offended that this "random' person sent this to me.

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3 comments Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts I grew up through young adulthood in the age of MySpace and early rendetions of Facebook. If you love your child, please give them privacy if they aren't struggling with addiction or are in a good place.

Really, the most important factor in your decision as a parent about this matter is your teen’s personality. It's not very nice. Let them know your concerns and possible dangers in texting, and then leave them to make their own choices.

I’ve taken to deleting entire conversations so that my parents don’t read them. Flag as inappropriate  Put yourself in their situation for a second.

I did have a Twitter account that I had made a couple years earlier, so I downloaded the Twitter app and texted my friends through that.

Flag as inappropriate  I don't think teens REALLY understand that part. and the whole “well i just dealt with my breakup.” thing is honestly disgusting because you act like we just shut out all of our emotions. And if I’m talking to people out of his church for a reason other than school; he will get angry with me and explain why I obviously don’t love him because I can’t respect his standards of putting god and the ones god loves first before people that don’t understand the truth. I tell my kids this, and try to convince them their life of privacy was made obsolete by technology. They are for some reason under the impression that we are sexting, sending nudes, etc., when in actuality we are talking and getting to know one another. My parents then decided it was time to become obsessive again and I'm now getting a tracking app on my iPhone alongside a spyware app I'm guessing. it's belittling to see all these adults who believe they somehow own or control their children's lives.

it's not okay, and will only make them more secretive [especially if they fear confrontation, even if they know they did nothing wrong. Yes, I understand that kids want their privacy, but until they are adults and can pay their own way, they shouldn’t expect it 24/7. 180 comments Flag as inappropriate  Try to get a long with your kids. Flag as inappropriate  Long Answer: I get the perspective of the parent- you have a child, and you want that child to be safe and not go down the wrong path. an example of probable cause would be “my kid is acting much more withdrawn and different then usual. no give them some privacy

We're obviously going to have private things on there.

I’m not a bad kid but I have sue aside depression which my parent gave me. It's a sad reality that the digital world is making our kids anti-social (in person) and isolated from the outside world.

Is it safe for teens to use location apps?

Flag as inappropriate  let a kid become his own person if a kid is to protected they can’t make mistakes. My kid's friend texted an embarrassing photo of her to other friends. Flag as inappropriate  I just tell him not all parents are honest with their kids about it. I was 11 years old, and she said that most if not all parents did the same, and remained bitter for the rest of the day. Teen, 15 years old written by pismobeach July 24, 2019 Teen, 13 years old written by mattat thegame April 15, 2019 It used to be when you become an adult you can do this or have that but now it’s you are still under my roof so you can’t.

I say no, absolutely not unless you have probable cause.

Sometimes it's in front of me, sometimes I have no idea she even looked through it until she confronted me.

Teen, 13 years old written by lexiemitchell September 15, 2020 Hey, just like the paragraph on top states, please always ask, ask ask. and then theres also stuff i just dont want or need them to know about, like a crush on a boy or something like that. It is invading their privacy, or is it not? A) I always know the password to everything

Sorry. Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts Flag as inappropriate  If there’s no reason for you to and your child’s around 13, then no way!

I'm not sure that she'd support me, So I want to wait until I'm in College to come out to her. Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts My kid seems addicted to her phone. I am a 15 year old, and I understand why parents occasionally feel the need to go through our phones. Im sorry to the kids out there who feel their relationship is falling apart because the parents are being nosy but they do it because they love you and want what’s best for you. They won't let me date bc they think I'm not old enough, so I have to sneak dating ppl. My friends are perfectly normal and I have a crush and my friend knows but I rlly don't want my mum to know so I always have to delete those messages as soon as I get home.

Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts I think that parents should be able to help kids navigate what is appropriate to look at and share when they are first texting. Teen, 14 years old written by noyrak8 June 13, 2020

Honestly, parents if you are reading this, then if you decide to look through your kid's phone then let them know at least. I hear and understand what all of the young people are feeling and saying.

Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts Flag as inappropriate  Teen, 13 years old written by evibear_11 April 10, 2018 As I read through all the teenagers' answers, I can clearly see how they all feel violated. Do better Farrell. Adult written by gaming4days November 22, 2019 Times are changing as they are supposed to, and we understand that you're not used to this. Teen, 14 years old written by JH2004 April 6, 2018 39 comments Teen, 15 years old written by Cherry_2004 July 26, 2019

Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts It just takes a minimum of an hour for anything I express to sink into his mind and for him to bring it back up in a non-defensive way. Keep your texts surface and informational or at the very least, keep it appropriate. Fortunately, though, these reactions will be the exception. It has led to me and my parents just not trusting eachother, and because of the lack of privacy and freedom I have, I simply cannot wait till I can move out (for other reasons as well). Kid, 12 years old January 17, 2017